How to be 10x More Awesome


You’re already pretty awesome, what, with the fact that you are a divine expression of love and you have an entourage of awesome angels and non-physical entities looking out for you in every moment, but, if you want to be 10 times more awesome, then I’ve got a list of 10 ways you can go about multiplying your level of awesome. Here they are:

1.Figure out who you are.

Are you your gender? How about your name? Your culture? A sister? A wife? A vegan? Who are you, really? How much of your self-concept depends on things that change, like physical appearance, age or diet? How much of your identity depends on eternal circumstances, such as where you were born, or how much money you had growing up? How much of who you are was born of what you were taught growing up, things like your beliefs around money, or how you view romantic relationships? What’s left after you talk all that off the table? The first step to being more awesome is to figure out who you are, but not the made-up you that’s an amalgamation of who your mother, society, and your job want you to be. Who would you be if you were stuck on a deserted island with amnesia? Learn how to get in touch with that part of you by committing to a mediation practice that will free your conditioned mind and identification with form.

2.Be more positive.

Sometimes, life sucks. I’ll be the first to admit it. Work can feel hard. People behave in less-than-lovable ways, and nobody wants to leave their house when it’s ten degrees out, but there are errands to run and money to make. So what? Why are you taking all of these things so seriously? Why can’t you have fun at work? Is there some way you can make doing dishes, running to the bank, and sitting in boring meetings enjoyable? Do you have to complain all the time? Who wants to be around a big ol’ complainer? No one. Focus on the positive: You’re alive, and you have food to eat! You’re probably reading this online, so you have an internet connection! You probably even have clean water! Your life is pretty good, actually. Stop acting like a spoiled brat and grow up! 

3.Find reasons to celebrate.

People love people who are excited about life, so find reasons to celebrate! Invite your friends over! Throw random parties. Dress up. If you don’t have money to plan a week-long trip, plan a day out somewhere special in your neighborhood. Wear sequins, or a nice blazer. Learn how to make scones, and then make them for your friends. Throw a flannel party, or an outdoor movie potluck. Have fun! The more fun you have, the more awesome you’ll be.

4.Cultivate a passion.

Most people who say they don’t have a passion claim that they weren’t “born with one,” as if a passion is similar to having blond hair, or blue eyes. If you weren’t gifted with a passion, then cultivate one! Try a new sport, or take up a hobby. Learn how to garden, build a website, or take up carpentry. Cultivating a passion will get you excited about waking up in the morning. It’ll get you off the couch (where you sit idly, consuming television), and it’ll spark your creativity. 

5.Get out of your head.

The most awesome people are detached from their thoughts, meaning, they know how to step out of their often complaining and negative mind, which is perpetually seeking all of the reasons why life is hard and other people suck, and in detaching from their thoughts, they are able to cultivate a profound feeling of peace. To begin the process of detaching from your thoughts, start a meditation practice. If you’re not in the habit of meditating, you’re going to resist it, and you might even try to meditate, only to come to the conclusion that it’s pointless, however, that is a trick of your ego. Spend 10 minutes meditating every day for a month and then form an opinion.

6.Be a rebel & love yourself.

It’s so common for people to complain about their weight, their wrinkles, and all of the reasons why they’re not content with their physical appearance. Don’t fall into the trap of the human condition, which is to perpetually complain and define beauty through a singular lens of thin, young, and pale. This definition is completely absurd. Decide that you will love your jiggly bits, your lumpy parts, your coarse hair, and your big nose. Be a rebel and stop treating yourself like shit.

7.Say fuck you to fear.

The voice in our minds literally doesn’t want us to do anything. It doesn’t want us to apply to new jobs, to start a website, or to sign up for a class at the new yoga studio down the block. It doesn’t want us to invite someone new to lunch, or to throw a party at our house. It likes to do, think, and believe the same tired things. Well, here’s the antidote to fear: Tell it fuck you. Decide that you’re going to start a website. You’re going to learn how to invest your money. You’re going to ask that person out, even though you’re petrified. Feel the fear and then say fuck you. Don’t let fear run your life.

8.Say fuck you to the man.

So, if you really want to be awesome, you not only want to say fuck you to fear, you also want to say fuck you to the man. Who’s the man you ask? The man invisible, unspoken culture of conformity that inundates people with specific messages about how to live their lives. The man is consumerist culture. The man is the singular vision of beauty and success. The man is corporate America flooding our screens with targeted advertising to get us to buy more, take more drugs, and eat more terrible foods. The man runs the healthcare system, the education system, and controls politics. The man only cares about making money, and because of this, the man thrives on a population that’s overweight, overmedicated, in debt, and too stressed from working too much to actually question who they really are, or if they really need to buy another shoes. Why are you in debt, stuck in a job you don’t like, and listening to a voice in your head that says you’re not enough? You’ve been programmed. Wake up. Say fuck you to the man. Say fuck you to patriarchy, to the idea that you’re not good enough, to the idea that you need to buy a house, get married, and have two children, a white picket fence, a boatload of debt, and constant trips to Walmart to be happy. You don’t.

The voice in your head is a lunatic, and the voice in my head is probably even more of a lunatic. The voice in my head doesn’t like to forgive; she insists on holding on grievances. She likes to worry and stress, even though she knows it does no good. She likes to come up with things she should change about her appearance, and she likes to come up with a lengthy list of thins she needs that would make her happy, such as a new couch, a better view, and a fluffy dog. She doubts herself, can be extra grumpy when she’s hungry, and she judges others.

Be willing to stop listening to your thoughts. Yes, we all think judgmental, pessimistic thoughts, but here’s the key: Stop following their directives and expressing them to others! You get the thought My partner should fill-in-the-blank. Don’t tell your partner! Don’t nag him and boss him around like his mother! Observe the thought as it arises in your consciousness, but keep it to yourself! The same goes for a mean thought, or the urge to gossip; it’s perfectly okay for thoughts to come into your awareness, but you’re crazy if you think you need to believe everything your mind suggest. If your mind tells you that you’re unattractive, do you need to believe it? Absolutely not. Stop being crazy.  

10.Remember that you are going to die.

Life is a gift. I know that it sounds terrible corny, but it’s true. Sooner than you think, you’re going to be old. Sooner than you think, you’re going to be 80, or 90, or sick and in bed, contemplating your death. You will wish that you had more time. You’d give anything to have another week at your shitty job, or spend another day with your annoying family. You’re going to miss all of the terrible things about your life: your debt, your crazy roommate, and your horrible friends. You’re not going to feel relieved that it’s over; you’re going to lament that you didn’t appreciate life when you were living.

Don’t wait until you’re old to recognize how precious life is! Enjoy your life now. Find a way to enjoy your shitty job. Find a way to love fighting with your partner. Find a way to celebrate when a credit card bill arrives. You are alive. You are alive! You have a body that is fairly functional, and you are able to eat, dance, and sing. So live. Remember to live, and you will be so awesome, that it will radiate out of you like rays from the sun. Live, and you will serve as a reminder for others to live. Choose to carry the light by remembering the temporariness of life. Do this, and not only will you be more awesome, but you will light up others.



Hi, I’m Jessie! I’ve been on the spiritual path for 15 years, and this blog is where I share hacks, lessons I’ve learned & mindful dating advice. I believe you can be spiritual and a badass. I believe you can live boldly, pursue your passions, & love fully. If you’d like to work with me, send me a message.