How to Heal Subconscious Fears & Shadow Energy
If you’re awakening and you’ve had subconscious negative patterns or shadow energy surface, then: a)You probably feel like you’re having an energetic exorcism and b)Take a breath, because there are steps you can take to quicken the process and shift back into alignment. Here’s your roadmap to healing subconscious shit (it’s not as difficult as you think):
#1 Honor what surfaces.
You’ve had resistance surface. What does it look like? You got into a huge fight with your partner. You just went through a breakup. You’ve realized that you hate your job. You’re facing a health scare. You feel burnt out. You need to make a drastic change, because, well, shit’s come up that you can no longer ignore. Simply put, it feels like this one area of your life isn’t working. It’s time to shed the light of consciousness on this part of your life and make a change. The first step is to honor what surfaces, which means, don’t try to fight it. Part of your life is falling apart or isn’t working, and thank God, because it’s no longer serving your highest self.
You see, you’re on a journey that’s going to have many pit stops, detours, and surprises. You need to put down your roadmap and go with the flow of Life. Every time a negative pattern or fear surfaces, it can feel painful, because it is, quite literally, a tiny egoic death. Maybe you fancied yourself a hot-shot attorney, only to find out that you can’t handle the stress. Maybe you thought your relationship was fine, only to discover that your partner is deeply unhappy and your lack of self-love is affecting your relationship.
Honor whatever has surfaced, because it’s pointing to a shift you need to make. This shift can be internal, such as a shift in perception, or it can be external, such as changing your job, or moving to a new city. Regardless of what the shift will look like, trust that this fear or negative situation is surfacing to be healed and honor it.
#2 Listen to your body.
The spiritual text A Course in Miracles says that the body is a communication devise, meaning, it is constantly communicating information to you. That migraine is telling you that you need to take a break and stop stressing about work. That clenched jaw is telling you that you’re holding on to anger. That lower backache is communicating your financial fears. While most people are focused on getting rid of the ailment, either by taking medication, or getting a procedure, they fail to listen to the root of the problem and make the necessary internal shifts. When you are willing to listen to your body, you decide that you will honor what it has to tell you. When it tells you to slow down, you listen. When it tells you to eat healthier, you listen.
Here’s the key: Your body knows more than your mind. It’s infinitely wiser, and it doesn’t lie.
Similarly, your body knows which romantic partner it likes. It opens up and relaxes around some people, while it contracts and recoils around others. Your body knows where it feels safe, and if you are present, you will notice who your body trusts and who it doesn’t.
#3 Allow yourself to feel the emotion or revisit the experience.
Oftentimes, healing patterns and fears that have recently surfaced involve looking at the experience that initially triggered the fear. This can be painful and difficult to do, as it can feel heavy to look at your pain body once it’s been triggered. However, it doesn’t serve you to simply repress your memories an refuse to look at them. When your shadow energy is triggered and an afraid part of your personality surfaces, often, it’s calling for some attention, some love. It wants comfort, love, and the light of awareness shined on it.
It can be helpful to think of this part of your personality as your inner-child, one that you’ve locked away in a closet in some attempt to keep moving forward without paying it much attention. Yet, it’s the awareness-the loving embrace-that heals your inner-child.
When your inner-child wants to communicate pain and is shouting for attention, here’s what you want to do:
1.Get in a relaxed, meditative state.
2.Imagine the adult version of you speaking to the younger you in a soothing, calm voice.
3.Ask your inner-child what it would like to share and let it tell you what hurts.
4.Wrap your arms around the child and tell it that you’re sorry that it’s hurting, but that everything is going to be okay.
Here’s the key: You want to talk to yourself in a loving, tender way. Don’t punish yourself when fear and pain surfaces. Honor the voice of the scared part of your personality and console it. Allow it to feel the pain, but don’t dwell on it. Listen, and let it pass.
#4 Shift your perception.
The spiritual text A Course in Miracles says that in every moment, we’re either choosing fear or love. Whenever we’re frustrated, angry, or sad, we’re perceiving a situation through the eyes of fear. When we’re feeling peaceful, excited, and happy, we’re perceiving correctly - through the eyes of love. It’s possible to shift your state of being by shifting your perception, and it’s an easy process. All you have to do is repeat the following prayer: I know I do not like the way I feel. I hope that I am wrong. I am willing to look at things differently.
Hate your job? Repeat the prayer. Fighting with your partner? Repeat the prayer. Depressed? Repeat the prayer. Making coffee? Repeat the prayer.
Repeat the prayer 5,000 times if you need to. Here’s the key: There’s more love, abundance, and grace in your life than you can recognize. When you’re focused on a situation or person that’s causing you to feel negative, you’re choosing the wrong thoughts. All that it takes to shift your perception is the smallest willingness to view things differently. Repeating the prayer allows for a shift in perception, or in other words, an expansion of consciousness; suddenly, your awareness, or your attention, shifts. You remember that you are so loved. You are healthy, and you are so blessed. You apologize when you previously blamed the other person. You leap before you feel ready. You let go of limiting beliefs that took you decades to form in a matter of moments.
#5 Release the block.
Energetic blocks get stuck in your body. When your energy isn’t flowing, you tense up, and your body literally stores the fear. As the fear surfaces and you begin to shift the perception, you want to physically release the block by breathing and focusing on loosening your body. Every time the fearful thought comes up, take a deep breath and allow the fear to pass. You can enter into a meditation in which you imagine your body as a long pipe. Imagine light entering in through your head and cleaning the pipe, dissolving any blocks as it flows from the top of your head to your feet, and back down into the earth.
The final step (and I hesitate to even call this one a step, because this will automatically occur once the fear has passed) is to move in the direction of love by taking action. For example, if a fear of receiving love surfaced after you pushed away a nice guy, then call him up and ask him out for coffee. If you had a panic attack when considering your financial situation, after dissolving your blocks to abundance, send out a few resumes. If it occurred to you that you’re addicted to sugar, processed food, alcohol, cigarettes, or anything else, then decide to lessen your intake, or quit consuming that substance all together. Nothing drives it home to the universe that you’re serious about releasing a fear that’s manifested as a block as taking real-world action. The awakening process is cyclical: You go through phases of uncovering blocks, purging and releasing what’s no longer serving you, and making space for new manifestations. As you continue to show up and commit to a spiritual practice, you will find that pain surfaces, and it’s completely normal. It’s simply telling you that you have some fears to look at, and once you’ve done the inner-work, you can step into the energy of your highest self.
Hi, I’m Jessie! I’ve been on the spiritual path for 15 years, and this blog is where I share hacks, lessons I’ve learned & mindful dating advice. I believe you can be spiritual and a badass. I believe you can live boldly, pursue your passions, & love fully. If you’d like to work with me, send me a message.