Your Shady Love Life is Keeping You From Becoming a Millionaire.

Your shady love life is keeping you from becoming a millionaire. Well, not exactly. Your shady love life is keeping you from accomplishing many of your hopes and dreams, whether that involve financial success, a fit body, or pursuing a passion project.

So, if you’re in a relationship and you’re participating in shady behavior, i.e.: flirting, texting, or doing anything that feels manipulative, such as keeping a secret dating profile, or meeting an ex for a drink, then it’s important that you realize that these behaviors are not as harmless as you may think.

here’s the thing: If you want to manifest the life of your dreams, you can’t waste your mental, emotional, and spiritual energy on being deceitful, calculating half-lies, and tending to the emotions of others after they discover your shady business. 

If you want to live a life of greatness, which simply means that you fulfill your highest destiny, then you have to refuse to engage in behavior that lacks integrity and doesn’t foster your spiritual growth. If you want to get a promotion, finish your screenplay, or start your own business, it’s never going to happen if you’re out at the bars, flirting with every Bill, Bob, and Dick who gives you a glance and buys you a margarita.

Why is this the case? There are 3 major reasons why your shady behavior is keeping you from fulfilling your dreams, so let’s take a closer look at why you need to stop the nonsense.

Reason #1: Your shady behavior is taking up mental space. 

You’re checking your texts, engaging in conversations, and spending your free time calculating what exactly constitutes as cheating. Your phone dings, and you wonder if your partner is going to notice that Susie texted you for the fifth time in three days. 

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Here’s the key: You need as much mental real estate as you can muster to meet your goals. If you intend to do great things in life, it takes unbridled focus. The best way to live a life of mediocrity is to fill it with romantic drama.

This is what keeps people from fulfilling their dreams. They’re too busy chasing booty, getting distracted by others, and self-sabotaging to recognize that their procrastination is a result of a lack of mental real estate.

Reason #2: Your shady behavior is taking emotional space.

Your life is an emotional rollercoaster. You flirt with every Bob, Billy, and Patrick you come across. You’ve considered cheating on your partner. You apply lipstick before going out to lunch with your friend Ted, because you’re attracted to him, but you don’t make the extra effort when you’re meeting your partner for dinner. 

This type of behavior keeps your heart closed. It lowers your vibration.  

You think it feels good to flirt with new people, because you get a rush, but it’s vacuous. It’s like eating chocolate cake for breakfast. It might seem like a good idea at first, but it’ll leave you nauseous and overweight.

Reason #3: Your shady behavior is taking up spiritual space.

You don’t meditate. You say you can’t discern between the voice of your ego and that of your Spirit. You don’t feel connected to the divine, to source energy - to God. Your spiritual life is nonexistent, and this feels like separation, a disconnection from meaning. Why are you here? Who are you? You can’t hear the voice of your Spirit if you’re caught in dishonest behavior. You can’t here the voice of Love if you’re spending all of your energy engaging in romantic drama. 

If you want to connect deeply to the divine part of you, you need to clear your life of bullshit. It’s not that Spirit isn’t trying to communicate with you, it’s that you’re too busy swiping on Tinder, too busy texting multiple people, or wondering if fill-in-the-blank is actually considered cheating. When you’re caught up in shady behavior, you lack integrity. You’re not in alignment with your Spirit, and this creates an energetic block. Your shadiness is clogging up your spiritual pipes. It’s cluttering your energy field.

So, if you’re tempted to engage in shady romantic drama, then recognize that it’s this egoic energy that’s keeping you from manifesting your dreams. If you want to manifest a great life, one that is in alignment with your Spirit and that is fulfilling on a soul level, you have to choose to show up with integrity. To live a life of greatness, you must get a clear mental picture of the highest version of yourself: Is she honest? Does she act deceitfully? Does she flirt with others because it validates her, or is she so busy working on creative projects and being awesome that she has no time leftover for shady bullshit?

Decide who you want to be, what kind of life you want to live, and then commit to becoming that person. You can do it. You can be the sort of person who lives with integrity and is aligned with your divinity; just make the decision.



Hi, I’m Jessie! I’ve been on the spiritual path for 15 years, and this blog is where I share hacks, lessons I’ve learned & mindful dating advice. I believe you can be spiritual and a badass. I believe you can live boldly, pursue your passions, & love fully. If you’d like to work with me, send me a message.