Why You Should Take a Leap of Faith in Your Love Life


I've never played it safe in love. It sounds awful to admit, but it's true. I once had a boyfriend who lived in New Hampshire (I live in NY, which is approximately six hours away); we met on eharmony, and I decided that I wasn't going to let distance stop me from following my heart, so when he drove his pickup truck to Brooklyn, although I was nervous, I trusted that meeting him was an experience worth having. 

It's called taking a leap of faith in your love life, and believe me, it takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there, especially when your friends and family call you crazy, but oftentimes, the heart wants what the mind cannot comprehend, and love is not something that can be computed, or figured out with a list of pros and cons.

When it seems the most illogical-when you want to turn down Mr. Tall-Dark-and-Handsome to date Mr. Dorky-Weird-and-fun, when you just know that even though you're taking a risk by opening up to someone, you feel called to do it, or when you confess your feelings to a friend, even though being honest might ruin the relationship-that's when you open up to the possibility of finding love.


Before you can manifest love, you will have to walk through fears, and this means opening up when your mind is telling you to put up your walls, trying something new when you're afraid, or putting yourself out there again when you've been hurt in the past. Love doesn't come to the timid; it comes to the bold. It comes to those who are open, receptive, and listening to their Spirit, or in other words, that intuitive voice that often sounds like the gentlest of whispers, nudging you, even when you're resisting.

Most of the time, what that voice will say will sound completely different from what the mind suggests, as the mind can only regurgitate the voice of others, the world, or what one can learn about dating from watching romantic comedies and reality television. Your mind is limited, whereas your heart, which is tuned to Spirit, knows your path before you can even get a glimpse. It speaks to you in signs, images, and dreams. It calls to you, and when you don't listen, you feel stressed, dissatisfied, and your romantic life is unfulfilling.

Here's the key: It takes practice to learn how to discern between what your mind says and what your Spirit wants.

The best way to attune your ability to distinguish between your mind (ego) and your Spirit is to have a daily spiritual practice, during which time you open up to guidance. You can do this through meditation, prayer, or studying the spiritual text A Course in Miracles, just to name a few. As you become a devoted listener, you will learn how to clearly recognize the voice of your ego from the voice of your Spirit.

As your learn to listen to your Spirit, you will become more confident and able to take a leap of faith. You will learn how to surrender, have faith, and release your grip on the outcome. All that it requires is the willingness to receive guidance and let go of your desire to control. While it's usually easier to follow what your mind would suggest, living boldly from your Spirit is what is necessary to create a life filled with passion, joy, and surprise! When your mind tells you that you are being crazy, that is the exact moment for you to jump, trust your heart, and have faith, and that is when the universe will dazzle and delight you - when you learn to listen to your heart and leap before you feel ready.