How I Used a Group of 11-Year-Olds to Manifest a Boyfriend

My partner Tim is also a spiritual teacher and coach. Check out his YouTube channel -  SelflessAwakening.

My partner Tim is also a spiritual teacher and coach. Check out his YouTube channel - SelflessAwakening.

A few years ago, I found myself in my early 30s, single again after my 6-year-long relationship ended, and I declared to the universe that I was going to manifest a boyfriend.

At the time, I was well versed in different manifestation techniques, as I’d studied and practiced the work of Abraham Hicks for years. I knew that in order to attract love into my life, I had to vibrate at the frequency of having love, meaning, all throughout the day, I had to feel the presence of love in my life more than its absence. 

Now, it can be difficult to feel love when you’re single and you want love. So, I decided to turn it into a game. At the time, I was teaching sixth grade English in Brooklyn. The students in my classes were warm, affectionate, and loved to write me letters telling me how kind and pretty I was. 

As a teacher, it’s easy to receive a few hugs or notes and dismiss them, tucking them away into a drawer somewhere, like it’s no big deal, and just go about your day. There are so many things to do that, while you think the note is sweet, you don’t really cherish it; your appreciation is fleeting at best.

It’s like that with so many things, isn’t it? We get a compliment from our best friend, or a sweet call from our sister, and we don’t let the love sink in; instead, we keep going on with life, as it seems to get busier every moment.

Well, since I was in the process of consciously manifesting love, I decided that I would dwell in a state of gratitude for my students. Every morning, I would wake up and write pages upon pages in my journal, expressing how kind and loving my students were, how I had so much love in my life, and how I was so blessed to be surrounded by so much love.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I had bad dates at that time. I met men who played games, acted hot-and-cold, or were just not my vibrational match. Still, I didn’t put too much focus on those men. Instead, I decided that my spiritual partner was going to show up, and in the meantime, I was going to focus on all of the love I had in my life, and here’s the thing: I wasn’t making it up. I did have so much love in my life. Not only was my day filled with young children who adored and appreciated me, I also had a best friend who was always there for me, a mother who loved me more than anything else in the world, and a sister who looked up to me. I wasn’t lying to myself or fabricating a story to try to convince myself. I had an abundance of love; it was true!

I only had to be willing to see it. 

Sometimes, you want to focus on the love that’s missing in your life, such as a romantic partner, instead of focusing on all of the love that is present in your life.

Here’s what I learned: It didn’t matter who I focused on to get myself in vibrational harmony with the energy of having love. I could’ve focused on my mother, best friend, or even my coworkers at the time. All that mattered was that I spend more time throughout the day feeling love, rather than lamenting a love that I felt was missing.

Because I focused all of my thoughts and energy on those sweet 11-year-olds, and they filled me with a tremendous sense of gratitude, I did manifest love - lots of it. Not only did I manifest a relationship, I also manifested new friends, compliments from strangers, and what felt like non-stop sweet gestures from people who I encountered on a daily basis. Once, I casually mentioned to the manager at the supermarket that it was my birthday, and without thinking twice, he went over to the flowers and created an enormous and beautiful bouquet, which he gave to me as a gift. For an entire week, I thought about that kind gesture, and the more I focused on it, the more gratitude I felt. 

Your life is filled with love. You have to make the decision to see it. When you shift your focus to the love that is present, you manifest more of it, and eventually, you will manifest a partner, because that’s how the law of attraction works. So, what love is currently in your life that you’ve been overlooking? What can you do today to shift to appreciating it?

Answer those questions, and you’re well on your way.


Hi, I’m Jessie! I’ve written about mindful dating, spiritual partnership & awakening for Elephant Journal & Thought Catalog. I’m also a featured blogger on the dating site YourTango. I can help you remove your blocks to love, heal your relationship, or become more confident. Set up a 1-hour coaching session (more about that here).

SINGLEJessica Leon