How to Become a Love Magnet

You want to know how to manifest love, because you crave partnership, and you’re ready for a relationship. You’ve tried making vision boards and lists, and you’ve revised your online dating profile countless times. Still, you haven’t met your perfect match. It can be frustrating, I get it. The  dating game can be exhausting, especially when you’re not meeting people who possess the character and integrity you’re looking for.

So, what do you do if you’re ready to manifest a holy hunk, but he’s nowhere to be found? What’s your next step if you’re ready for a committed, healthy relationship, but you continue to attract emotionally reticent men who aren’t ready to share an appetizer at a restaurant, much less a mortgage?

The answer is this: You decide to become only love.

Now, before you start shaking your head with confusion, or thinking that I’m spewing woo-woo nonsense, let me explain.

If you want to manifest love - real, unconditional love - not the sort of “love” that most people think about when they imagine relationship, not the love that has to do with keeping score, being jealous, and projecting onto your partner. No, if you want to manifest a healthy spiritual partnership that’s rooted in vulnerability, personal growth, and honesty, then you must line up with it energetically. You must become only love, meaning you must raise your vibration from one of fear, stress, worry, and judgment to one of trust, open-heartedness, generosity, and faith. You must shift your mindset, beliefs, and the way you show up in the world so drastically that only love will come to you.

It’s law of attraction 101: Like attracts like. If you don’t trust men, you’re going to attract men who are dishonest. If you have a subconscious fear of commitment, you’re going to attract men who are afraid of partnership. If you’re more insecure about your body than you can admit to yourself, you’re going to attract a partner who can’t love you fully. 

Here’s the key: Love attracts love. If you want to manifest love in your life, it’s not a matter of your going out to seek for it. Rather, you need to remove any blocks to love, be it thoughts, subconscious fears, or limiting beliefs. When most of your thoughts, beliefs, and actions are loving, you will attract only love, as love is, quite literally, a magnet for love. It is a metaphysical law. It cannot be any other way.

So, what does becoming love look like on a day-to-day basis? How exactly do you vibrate only love?

#1 You stop complaining.

Our conditioned minds are trained into a constant state of fear and negativity. We’ve learned from parents, friends, and the media, that it’s natural to complain, vent, and judge others. Think about how many times a day you say something negative about your job, your boss, or the people in your life. You may not even be aware of how many negative thoughts you think, because you’re so used to gossip, judgment, and negative self-talk. You watch reality television, where people are mean to each other. You gossip about your friends when they’re not around. You bitch about how your roommate is a slob. You think you’re ready for a spiritual partnership grounded in love and positivity? First, you need to get your mind straight so that you’re a vibrational match to love.

#2 You learn to trust.


You think you’re going to be hurt by love. You believe this on a conscious level, and you probably believe this on a subconscious level as well, meaning, you’re unaware of all of the fearful beliefs you’ve picked up as a result of witnessing your parents’ dysfunctional relationship, or listening to your aunt Patty all those times she told you that all men were dogs. 

If that’s not bad enough, your ex-boyfriend was a jerk, and you’ve been ghosted by your last three dates. How can you actually trust when all you’ve known is pain? Here’s the key: When you commit to the spiritual path, your subconscious fears will rise to the surface (you’ll become aware of them). When you study A Course in Miracles, or commit to meditating every morning, you begin to wake up. All of a sudden, you break your karmic ties. If you used to attract emotionally reticent men who were unconscious, you now attract mindful men who crave partnership. You learn to become even more vulnerable, which means that at the men who show up are honest and ready to reveal their authentic selves.

A spiritual practice will ready you for the intimacy, vulnerability, and open-heartedness that’s required for true partnership.

When you’re not on a spiritual path, you attract others who are also not rooted in spirit, and you enter into relationships that vibrate at the energy of the world: You play games; you check each other’s text messages, and you live in a constant state of fear that the other person will leave. You call it “love,” but it’s a worldly love. Spiritual partnership is something altogether. You can only attract it into your life if you expand your consciousness and release negative patterns.

#3 You expect only love.

If you think you have unconscious blocks to love, be sure to read     How to Get Over Your Fear of Commitment.

If you think you have unconscious blocks to love, be sure to read How to Get Over Your Fear of Commitment.

You say you need to lose weight before you can start dating. You say you’re too old, too divorced, or too focused on your career. You say there aren’t enough “good men” out there. You say romance is dead. You spend your free time with your single friends lamenting about how online dating has ruined love.

You think you’re going to manifest love, when you don’t really believe it’s possible? 

Come to a place where you expect only love. Develop your faith by repeating affirmations and reading spiritual texts that place new beliefs in your mind. When you catch yourself thinking it’s impossible, or telling friends that there’s a limited selection of “fish in the sea,” stop yourself and choose a new thought.

Repeat: I expect only love. Love is who I am. I am a magnet for love.

Once you are in vibrational harmony with love, you will find that divine connections and opportunities occur. You don’t need to effort or act out of desperation. Check out the video I shot with my partner Tim How to Use the Law of Detachment to Manifest a Relationship.

You are a powerful creator. You are a magnet for love, joy, and abundance. When you believe this deeply and are willing to believe only this, when you are willing to step out of your conditioned mind and live from a place of positivity and faith, you will find that you attract nothing but love. People who are joyful, peaceful, and supportive show up in your life. Men who meditate and are interested in personal growth show up. When you become only love, you get only love. Everything you send out comes right back to you. It’s universal law. If you want to become a love magnet, send out only love. 



Hi, I’m Jessie! I’ve been on the spiritual path for 15 years, and this blog is where I share hacks, lessons I’ve learned & mindful dating advice. I believe you can be spiritual and a badass. I believe you can live boldly, pursue your passions, & love fully. If you’d like to set up a session, I can help you to identify & release your blocks to love, as well as help you to gain clarity on your next step in life.